As the clock strikes midnight across the globe, and the world heralds the start of 2017, millions will resolve to make changes to their lives.
Nearly half of us are making New Year's resolutions, but less than 10 percent of us are actually keeping them. Whether it's lack of motivation, lack of resources, or we just lose interest, it's time to make a fresh start and figure out ways to finish what we've started.
There will be vows to shed weight, quit smoking and get fit, resolutions to spend more time helping others, take on new challenges and spend more time with loved ones. But, within weeks, days in some sorry cases, these New Year's resolutions will be broken, discarded and long forgotten.
Here are few reasons people don't stick to their New Year's resolutions and how to keep it from happening this year.
Going it Alone
Whether it's quitting smoking, improving your tennis game, or going to the gym more often, don't go it alone. If you are someone who has a higher success rate when you have outside support, then get a buddy. Verbalize your goals to others who will support you, and maybe some of them will go on the journey with you.
If your goal is to solve world peace, maybe a more attainable goal is to vow you'll finally read War and Peace. Make resolutions that you think you can keep. If, for example, your aim is to exercise more frequently, schedule three or four days a week at the gym instead of seven. If you would like to eat healthier, try replacing dessert with something else you enjoy, like fruit or yogurt, instead of seeing your diet as a form of punishment.
Giving up too Easily
Whether you get discouraged or simply lose interest, giving up too easily is a big resolution breaker. Many people make their resolutions with a genuine belief that they can accomplish them, but just before February the excitement wears off and other priorities begin to take precedence. To cure this issue, try to set benchmarks throughout the year. By doing so, you can keep yourself on track throughout the year and use the power of positive reinforcement to keep your momentum going.
Sometimes you realize your resolution is a bigger time commitment than you'd originally intended. Instead of trying to accomplish it all in one day, break it up into manageable increments.
The best resolutions are those that actually include a plan of action, You may need to create a plan that will help you achieve your goals,Break your end goal down into smaller, weekly goals so you feel like you're working towards something immediate, and make a calendar with something to do every day that will get you closer to your desired result.
Lack of Honesty
Are you truly committed to running a marathon, losing weight, or whatever else you are committing to do? Be honest with yourself. Make resolutions you actually want to achieve because you really want to and are actually going to put a plan of action towards.
Not Believing in Yourself
Sometimes all you need to keep going is a pat on the back—from yourself, always congratulate yourself for your progress. Perfection is unattainable. Remember that minor missteps when reaching your goals are completely normal and OK. Don’t give up completely because you ate a brownie and broke your diet, or skipped the gym for a week because you were busy. Everyone has ups and downs; resolve to recover from your mistakes and get back on track.
Ask for support
Accepting help from those who care about you and will listen strengthens your resilience and ability to manage stress caused by your resolution. If you feel overwhelmed or unable to meet your goals on your own, consider seeking professional help. Psychologists are uniquely trained to understand the connection between the mind and body.
If you’re looking to make a change, then stop worrying about results and start worrying about your identity. Become the type of person who can achieve the things you want to achieve. Build the habit now. The results can come later.